- Relationships are not easy: trying to date in college? Good luck with that. Finding the balance between school, fun and self-care is hard enough. Not saying it impossible to be in a thriving relationship in college, I’m just saying it’s not as easy as the movies make it seem.
- Your entire life revolves around school: I should rephrase….your entire life revolves around school, if you want to do well. You will have so much fun in college, but school is always in the back of your mind. You live on campus (or near campus), you plan your social calendar, meals and extra curriculars around classes and studying. School is a job and it will take up most of your time.
- You will learn every little thing about people you spend the most time with: I could probably name my roommates top 10 least favorite foods, the last 5 things she ordered from the internet and how much money she has in her bank account. Living with people and spending enormous amounts of time with them means learning a lot about them. This can bring you closer to someone, but be wary that it will also lead to annoyance and conflict; spending too much time with people makes them annoying sometimes. Just be patient and kind to people, always, it will pass.
- Not everyone will study as hard as you do: Take your education into your own hands and figure out how you need to do things to succeed. Just because your friend studies for two hours and then goes to a frat party the night before an exam doesn’t mean you should. On the other side of that, don’t study 10 hours if you’re prepared. Figure out how to find that sweet spot for preparedness (this comes with practice).
- College does not mean everyone is super smart: there is always that kid in class who asks too many questions about an assignment or asks a question that the professor just answered. It’s annoying, but it’s life.
- You’re not actually independent: Going to college is not an excuse to disconnect from your parents. Chances are they are paying for your education, food and housing. You’re still dependent on them, sorry.
- You will want to go home: People who tell you they have never once gotten homesick at school are full of
shitcrap. No way. No way. 99% of the time I’m homesick it’s not because I miss home per se, but because something happened at school and I just need to get away from that environment, but it’s still homesickness. When this happens, make plans to go home, a weekend away can do wonders. But don’t get in a habit of it.
- If you want to do well in school, you can’t party all the time: Going out once a week or so is totally normal and necessary for sanity, but if you go out every night you’ll be tired
and hungoverand will have wasted time you may need for work/studying. It will catch up with you.
- Partying really isn’t that fun: Yes, being with friends and meeting new people is fun, but partying can be hot and sweaty and creepy and end poorly to the point where you regret going in the first place. Don’t have expectations that are too high.
- Meal plans rock! People who complain about dining halls are stupid. Dining halls rock! AT my school there are always basics like sandwiches and salads along with a rotating menu. The key is to be creative! Mix and match pieces from different areas of the dining hall and you can make a kickass meal. My favorites? Rice with beans and lettuce and cheese from the salad bar, or get a tortilla from a sandwich station and shredded cheese from the salad bar and make a quesadilla on a Panini maker. The possibilities are endless. Watch what other people do and steal their ideas.
Do you have any advice for incoming college freshmen? Comment below and let me know!